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Lifestyle Fatigue and Taking a Break

Swinger Burnout and why we haven't been as active lately

Episode Notes

Note: The sound quality is not as good in this episode, we will fix the problems for episode 7.

Welcome to Episode 6 of Sharing is Caring the podcast!

We are Kiwi and Cherie, a New Zealand and French couple living in London.

First things first, we have booked our holiday in Cap d'Agde! We will be staying at Le Jardin de Babylone from Saturday 17th to Sunday 25th August 2019. If you are planning to be in Cap d'Agde at the same time, get in touch!

For our main topic we talk about why we haven’t been as active over the last several weeks and address Lifestyle Fatigue, or Swinger Burnout. We discuss potential causes, including: - Illness - Pregnancy and childbirth - Too much going on in normal life - Too much going on in lifestyle - Relationship issues

We go on to answer a couple questions:

How do you relationships while having a break?

and

How long we take a break for? / When is it time to return?

We then explore ways to explore and manage fatigue: - Make time for yourselves and your relationship - Use a calendar - Prioritise who you want to spend your time with

Listener Question

We answer a question submitted by someone who read our review of Le Boudoir on reddit:

We've been enjoying lifestyle clubs for a while now, but are a little nervous about Le Boudoir. We've seen a bunch of reviews where couples go and then either get asked to not attend again, or are not invited to attend in the first place. We are both conventionally attractive with a touch of alternative so not too worried on that front. Our main curiosity is just what the crowd was like when you were there? We have been led to understand that fairly heavy people are basically not invited to attend. Our male half is a hair off normal BMI, and female half is around size 14-16 so we are not big, but are not gym fit either. We are losing weight and firming up and have been for a few months now (thanks swinging!), but are trying to figure out if we should get slimmer and fitter first before applying and attending, or if we are already fairly average compared to the crowd there and would be safe to take the plunge. If you could share some thoughts as to what you saw with the average and lower ends of the crowd in terms of appearance, that would be really helpful in assisting us understanding the thresholds! Much appreciated and thanks for the review from a couple of months ago.

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Music:

  • Intro/outro: "Once have I" by Boogie Belgique, Licensed under Creative Commons (CC BY-NC-ND 3.0)

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Tinder and a Blanket Fort in New Zealand

Recruiting a new Unicorn from Tinder

Episode Notes

Welcome to Episode 5 of Sharing is Caring the podcast!

We are Kiwi and Cherie, a New Zealand and French couple living in London.

We are finally back from our holiday in New Zealand! After being home for a week, the jetlag is fading but Kiwi's NZ accent is still strong.

Catchup:

Neither of us had ever used Tinder before, so while in Dunedin we decided to download and try out Tinder for the first time with a couples profile. We were lucky enough to meet a beautiful single woman who shared some of the same interests as us... Blanket forts!

Continuing the Journey

For this portion of telling our story we talk about inviting "Tina" and "Josh" over to our flat for a bit of soft fun. Cherie's favourite part was definitely the massage with coconut oil at the end.

Listener Question

We answer a question submitted by a friend of ours:

I’m single and want to get into the swinging scene and want to meet up with couples to play, but I don’t want to just be seen as a kind of novel for couples to use without considering my feelings.

Feel free to get in touch or to submit a listener question for future episodes.

Contact us:

Music:

  • Intro/outro: "Once have I" by Boogie Belgique, Licensed under Creative Commons (CC BY-NC-ND 3.0)

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SIC 004 : Let's go back

Visiting a nudist beach and returning to Rios

Episode Notes

Welcome to Episode 4 of Sharing is Caring the podcast!

We are Kiwi and Cherie, a New Zealand and French couple living in London.

This episode was pre-recorded because we are going on holiday to New Zealand for a few weeks! I'm actually typing up these show notes right before we run out the door to the airport.

Catchup:

We talk about the anti-Valentine's day social/meet and greet we went to last Thursday at which we met a single man who we have been messaging.

Continuing the Journey

For this portion of telling our story we talk about two parts of our journey. First, visiting a nudist (several times) beach near Komiža in Croatia. Secondly, we recount our second visit to Rios at which we met and played with another couple.

Listener Question

We answer a question submitted by an anonymous listener:

Recently my partner and I have been talking about opening our relationship. I’m interested in getting into the lifestyle and my partner is trying to get there, but they want to go gently. What’s the best way to go about setting up something very gentle or introductory for a first experience?

Feel free to get in touch, and to submit a listener question for future episodes.

Contact us:

  • Twitter: @KiwiAndCherie
  • e-mail: kiwi.and.cherie@gmail.com
  • web: www.sharingiscaringpodcast.com

Music:

  • Intro/outro: "Once have I" by Boogie Belgique, Licensed under Creative Commons (CC BY-NC-ND 3.0)

Support Sharing is Caring by donating to the tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/sharing-is-caring

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SIC 003 : Our first trip to a naturist spa

Pasta, Friends, and Bisexuality

Episode Notes

Welcome to Episode 3 of Sharing is Caring the podcast!

We are Kiwi and Cherie, a New Zealand and French couple living in London.

In this episode we start out by discussing the episode of BBC 4 Womans hour podcast which came out on 11th Feb 2019 entitled Nelson Mandela's PA, Sewing, Porn in which they discuss the recent law changes in the UK surrounding pornography and so-called obscene acts. A transcript of our conversation and link to the episode can be found at the bottom of the show notes.

For our catchup portion we talk about the "social" we attended last Saturday where we were the only couple (other than the organisers), and pole dancing.

We then continue our story about our journey into the lifestyle. This time we discuss our first visit to Rios, a naturist spa in London which has couples night on Saturday.

This episode we have our first real listener question!:

We've been thinking about this for a while now and both want it and talking to you and your podcast has made us so much more confident to try it soon. I would love to know more about Kiwis bi experiences when swinging. I am nervous about my bicuriosity being obvious or a problem as so often only the woman is expected to be bi in foursomes.

Kiwi talks briefly about being a bisexual man in the lifestyle and we decide to dedicate an episode to the topic.

Feel free to get in touch, and to submit a listener question for future episodes.

Contact us:

  • Twitter: @KiwiAndCherie
  • e-mail: kiwi.and.cherie@gmail.com
  • web: www.sharingiscaringpodcast.com

Music:

  • Intro/outro: "Once have I" by Boogie Belgique, Licensed under Creative Commons (CC BY-NC-ND 3.0)

Porn Law changes transcript

I was listening to yesterday’s episode the BBC woman's hour podcast on the way home from work this evening and they did a segment a recent law change in the UK where the laws surrounding porn showing so-called obscene acts has been relaxed.

Under the previous law, obscene acts included things like Female Ejaculation, BDSM and Face-sitting, which is absolutely crazy.

The major change is that Crown Prosecution Service are no longer defining what is classified as obscene and have removed all examples. In a statement, they said “It is not for the CPS to decide what is considered good taste or objectionable”. Instead the guidance will give criteria which any potentially objectionable material will be evaluated against. The four main criteria are: the likely audience is not under 18 it is not otherwise linked with other criminality no serious harm is caused, whether physical or otherwise it features consenting adults, where the provision of consent is made clear where consent may not be easily determined from the material itself

The last point is really the one which really matters: it features consenting adults, where the provision of consent is made clear where consent may not be easily determined from the material itself

Now, this isn’t just a win because it allows people to produce and consume porn which reflects their identity and desires, but as Pandora Blake, a self identified performer and porn producer who was interviewed on the podcast mentions, it mean that mainstream porn producers will need to start to show the performers giving and even negotiating consent. This is already something which is a lot more common for kink producers, but at the moment it’s not really part of mainstream porn.

Anyway, I don’t want to spend the whole podcast talking about the social impact of consent in porn, so I’ll stop now. It’s a short 10 minute segment at the beginning of the episode with a debate, it’s worth listening to, I’ll put the podcast info into the show notes, go check it out after you finish listening.

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SIC 002 : Swingers in the Wild

Meeting People Unexpectedly

Episode Notes

Welcome to Episode 2 of Sharing is Caring the podcast!

We are Kiwi and Cherie, a New Zealand and French couple living in London.

In this episode we are trying out a new mic with much better results, let us know what you think.

We discuss our resent experience of being propositioned at an immersive dinner in the Waterloo Vaults, and a few other sexy experiences of meeting people in the wild.

We also discuss common swinger "symbols", some more reliable than others (hint, garden gnome does not always equal swinger).

For our listener question we have text a friend and answer: Are all women in the lifestyle bi?

Correction: While answering the listener question we talk about the Kinsey scale; the scale is in fact 0-6, not 0-7 as we say in the podcast. Kinsey scale: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale

Feel free to get in touch, and to submit a listener question for future episodes.

Contact us:

  • Twitter: @KiwiAndCherie
  • e-mail: kiwi.and.cherie@gmail.com
  • web: www.sharingiscaringpodcast.com

Music:

  • Intro/outro: "Once have I" by Boogie Belgique, Licensed under Creative Commons (CC BY-NC-ND 3.0)

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SIC 001 : Where it all began

How we started out in the swinging lifestyle

Episode Notes

Welcome to Episode 1 of Sharing is Caring the podcast!

We are Kiwi and Cherie, a New Zealand and French couple living in London.

In this episode we introduce ourselves and talk about how we first got into the lifestyle, as well as recounting our first experience at a Fever party in London.

We answer a "listener question" (since we don't have any listeners yet, a friend's question): Is the lifestyle full of sexy people?

Feel free to get in touch, and to submit a listener question for future episodes.

Contact us:

  • Twitter: @KiwiAndCherie
  • e-mail: kiwi.and.cherie@gmail.com
  • web: www.sharingiscaringpodcast.com

Music:

  • Intro/outro: "Once have I" by Boogie Belgique, Licensed under Creative Commons (CC BY-NC-ND 3.0)

Support Sharing is Caring by donating to the tip jar: https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/sharing-is-caring

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